On the Threshold
High school kids are now on the threshold of independence. By fifteen, your son or daughter has a conscience and is developing their own moral and ethical values. The etiquette fundamentals required for most social interactions are established, and your child is almost, but not quite, ready to face the world on her own terms. In order to make many of the manners you have taught her her own, she first may reject them. However, as she evolves into a young adult, she will take them back. Your task is to maintain the standards you have established. She will be looking to you for that consistency.
In addition, there are specific manners you can teach. The manners associated with interviews are invaluable and may actually help to differentiate your child from all the others the interviewer meets. When your child goes to meet her boyfriend’s parents, she will thank you for the table manners you have insisted on. There are a myriad of manners associated with the special parties that come about in the teen years: proms, homecoming, carnivals, and graduation. When kids have an understanding of what’s expected of them and what they can expect of others, they move into any new situation with confidence. What a gift!
Cindy and Peggy’s Books
Cindy Post Senning and Peggy Post wrote Teen Manners: From Malls to Meals to Messaging and Beyond specifically for teens. In addition to the everyday manners presented in a more mature style, manners related to interviews, jobs, leadership in school, and social life are explored with explanations about why they are important and examples that show how good manners make a difference.